Who is Vintage Mama?
I’m Sandra, a happily married and very confident mother to four children.
I am a great Attachment Parent to Brett (16), Justus (11), Autumn (4), and Ayla, who joined us on January 1, 2008 – the first baby of the new year in our hospital! Thanks for visiting my blog and reading my assorted musings!
I am a loving devoted wife, I am a great mother. I am opinionated and outspoken, and will never apologize for that. I have EARNED the right to be both. I have experience. I have education. I have knowledge. I have been rich and poor, single and married, childless and blessed with family. I have traveled, I have married, I have divorced, I have suffered losses, I have celebrated gain. I’ve lost a baby, and been blessed with four. I have been a part of corporate America, been a business owner, and been unemployed. I have done it. I am an intelligent woman, but most of all I have common sense. I do speak my mind, and I always will.
I have the utmost confidence in my choices. I don’t question myself on how I raise my family of four. I am right – for US. I am 41 years old, and very proud of it. My experience is priceless to me, and to some others. I am a laid back mama, not falling into the trap of fearmongering, media hype, product hype, “expert” advice, or any other mainstream idea today. I parent on common sense, intelligence, and instinct. I’ll tell you here!
I don’t drink, I don’t smoke. I am a Conservative Republican. I spent 20+ years in the financial industry. I did everything from repossessing homes to IRAs to mortgage lending. I would never subject myself to that again.
I believe in natural childbirth if at all possible, I don’t believe doctors play a part in a normal labor & delivery 95% of the time – I wish the Western world would adapt back to the understanding that childbirth is not a medical emergency, it’s a natural event and women are perfectly capable of controlling the situation. Really.
Along those lines, I fully believe people need to take charge of their healthcare in general and not let a physician run amok on them. Simply because they have a piece of paper on the wall doesn’t negate the fact that they are human, they do make mistakes, they don’t necessarily have the latest information, they don’t belong on a pedestal, and they don’t always know what’s best for YOU. If you go in armed, informed, and ready to be a PARTNER in your healthcare, your doctor will appreciate it greatly.
I think that if you “Ferberize” or use Ezzo or the Pearls to get your parenting advice, Child Protective Services should be called in. There is no other definition for their “expert” opinions other than pure child abuse. Period.
I believe all children should be raised under the Attachment Parenting “standards”. I don’t believe in sleep training, allowing a baby to cry it out, or any other mainstream “expert” practice that seems to be infiltrating society over the past few years. I believe wholeheartedly in the family bed, I advocate breastfeeding but understand the obstacles that can be in the way for some women and I don’t think formula feeding is the devil. I love babywearing and absolutely believe every family should practice Gentle Discipline. Hands are for hugging, not hitting. I don’t look at my infants as inconveniences that must be molded to fit adult standards, but as little dependent beings that have a natural internal clock, instincts that must be nurtured, and time to grow before they must adhere to society’s clocks and standards.
I believe in self-feeding table foods to the babies, not feeding commercial jarred foods or even purees. I know that a baby, once reaching the age of readiness (around 5-7 months), is perfectly able to handle finger foods and this offers many benefits – not only the social aspect of sitting at the table with the family, but learning texture, feel, taste, and colors, all by being able to have food on the tray instead of on the spoon. And this practice certainly is much cheaper and easier than buying bland jars or doing the “homemade babyfood route” of steaming/pureeing/separating/freezing/thawing/spoon feeding an infant. Safe, recommended, wonderful self-feeding table foods.
I don’t worry about organics or the “Green Movement”. My food is safe, delicious, and healthy, and just like three decades ago, the movement will calm down. I don’t throw trash out my window, mind you, but I also know that changing out my lightbulbs isn’t going to contribute one iota to saving the world (except to make GE richer than God). The world is fine. It’s cyclical. In 30 years we’ll be having a scare about an Ice Age. People need to relax.
I can’t stand the BANDWAGON MENTALITY. People jump on just because it’s the thing to do.
I believe our world is INCREDIBLY safe, and we are very lucky that’s a fact. I raise “Free Range Kids“, who have the ability to play outside alone, visit friends in the neighborhood, and walk/bike into the city (all age appropriate, of course), without parental supervision. Since the world is wonderfully safe, I don’t worry that anything will happen, and I am giving them the gift of experience, independence, education, fun, and a real childhood. Something some of today’s kids are sorely missing because of media fearmongering.
I am Christian but fully intend on letting my kids explore their own religions. I am not racist, I am not bigoted, I am not prejudiced, and I hope to pass that along to them. I am kind, I am a good friend. I have no trace of jealousy in my body. I don’t worry. These are also emotions that are wasted. I hope my children learn to be laid-back and relaxed in their lives. I will support them in whatever path they choose to take, as long as they are happy in that path.
I may not always word it properly, I may sound brash or determined, but I mean well and just want to help when I give my own parenting opinions. If I have only helped ONE person stop letting their baby cry, or got ONE person to tell their doctor what they want, or ONE person to try natural childbirth, then I am happy.
I fully believe and support the death penalty for any non-self-defense murders. I also believe there should be a gas chamber right outside the courtroom, and sentenced monster gets escorted right in after being found guilty – thus saving 15 years’ worth of senseless appeals on my tax dollars. And saving 30 years of cable TV, lawyer fees, education, food, shelter, weight rooms, electricity, water, and whatever else we give these beasts. They live better than some honest Americans. This has gotta stop.
I don’t believe a wife beater can ever be rehabilitated. I think once a violent man, always a violent man.
Child molesters need their organs removed in a public square, sans anesthesia. With a rusty knife. Period.
And last, I live by the mantra “In 10 years, will it REALLY matter?”. You’ll find that a lot of things don’t – like the toddler jumping on the couch, or the baby finding a crayon and marking the walls. Nothing to stress about at all.