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Posts Tagged ‘babies’

Children’s Shows Rant

Posted by Sandra on July 29, 2009

Yo Gabba Gabba is just plain creepy.  When I see a man in an orange jumpsuit, all I can think about is “inmate”.

The duck on Wonderpets needs intervention.  Bad.  A lisping role model is not really ideal.

I can’t put my finger on it, but something is wrong with Lazy Town.  It disturbs me.  On many levels.

The chick that does the voice on Wow Wow Wubbzy is the same one that does the Squirrel on Sponge Bob.  That voice makes me want to peel my skin off my face.  Please make it stop.

Someone please tell Ruby that she doesn’t need to begin and end every sentence with the word Max.  And interject it in the middle.  I’m fairly certain she says his name at least 3,629 times per episode.  If you’re the only two people in a room, I’m certain he knows you’re talking to him.

And where, exactly, are Max & Ruby’s parents, while they’re galavanting at the mall and all over town??

Change Sesame Street’s theme song back to the fun sing-song one it used to be.  Not the crap “rap” version it is now.

Let the Cookie Monster eat all the cookies he wants, for God’s sakes.  No kid gets obese from watching a muppet eat sweets.  It’s because the mom drives to the store and buys them, then lets her kid eat them 24 hours a day.

Bring back the Electric Company.  Like it used to be.

Shouldn’t Barney be dead by now?  What exactly is the lifespan of a dinosaur?  They didn’t live this long a billion years ago, for God’s sakes.

The Spider Dad on “Ms. Spider” is scary looking.  I’m all for scary – my kids love horror movies from as soon as they can sit and watch one – but this dude is eerie.


Now for some praise.

I can listen to Dora all day.  Really.  I don’t even mind that they’re teaching Spanish in my country, which should only speak English.  I just like the show.

The kids on the Backyardigans can SING.  They’re amazing!  I’m guessing it’s studio-enhanced, but I don’t care.

The best cartoon – no, the best SHOW – EVAH – is Family Guy.  It should be required viewing for all parents so they can work the bugs out of their uptight butts and have a few laughs.


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Guest Blogger – 2

Posted by Sandra on May 29, 2009

I found this heartwrenching and heartwarming at the same time.  I love those seven words, they hold more meaning than any words I’ve read in a very long time.

“My whole heart is in that incubator”

The Motherwear Breastfeeding blog recently featured a fantastic guest post by a woman whose son was born 3 months early and weighed less than 3 pounds. She writes about how breastfeeding was her and her son’s lifeline. Here is an excerpt from her post, My whole heart is in that incubator:

I was 37 years old. I thought I knew what love was. I thought I knew. But I have never loved anyone, anything, so fiercely, so terribly, so wonderfully, so achingly, as I did my little son, my only child, struggling in that incubator….

I loved and still love that boy with all I have. Because I couldn’t hold him much, and felt terrible guilt for not being able to ‘hold him in’ for the entire 9 months he deserved, I was determined to breastfeed. I pumped every 3 hours for weeks on end. That pump and the milk that came out of me was my lifeline. It was somehow the way I was going to make it up to him for giving him such a lousy start in this world. So when I read stuff like “The Case against Breastfeeding” I get so angry. I believe that my breastmilk, and the good care we got at BC Children’s, saved my child’s life. It saved my life. If there is anything in this crazy, crazy world that is really is a gift from God it is the babies we can create and the milk that comes from our bodies.

If anything is pure and natural, and real and true, it’s breastmilk. It made me feel like a mother when my baby was all alone inside a machine when he should have been inside me.

Anyone who dismisses breastfeeding so casually, or by their attitude or indifference creates an environment that doesn’t hold up and encourage and cheerlead a new mom into a successful breastfeeding relationship, has lost touch with something. They’ve lost touch with a sense of what it means to be a mother, what feeding a baby is all about, what it means to nurture, how significant that breastfeeding can be to both mother and child.

Posted by Rixa at Thursday, May 28, 2009  
Thank you, Rixa, for sharing this story; and thank you to the original author for sharing her heart.

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It should be a LAW…

Posted by Sandra on May 14, 2009

That “The Business of Being Born” is required to be viewed by every single pregant woman, every woman thinking about being pregnant, every woman that can become pregnant, and every single doctor/OB/midwife/nurse that ever comes in contact with someone that is, will be, or can be pregnant.

I hope everyone picks up Ricki’s new book, too:  Your Best Birth.

And that’s what I think!!


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Random Monday Thoughts

Posted by Sandra on May 11, 2009

Hope all my mommy friends had a great Mother’s Day.  I was blessed with flowers on Friday, a special meal at my favorite restaurant on Saturday, and a gift from the Diamond Cellar on Sunday.  All that, and hubby did laundry, cleaned the kitchen, and took care of the kids for me.  I must’ve done something right sometime, somewhere!  Here’s a (not so good) picture of my gift, it made me cry… a charm necklace for each of my children with their birth stones:

Let’s see… other random musings for today…

Wanda Sykes needs moved to a deserted island and put out of our misery.

Thank GAWD Joan won the Celebrity Apprentice.  When your boss asks you what you’ve done to earn a job, you DON’T start pointing fingers at someone else and blaming them for your failures. 

I have decided I will never beat my carb addiction.  Why are carbs so wonderful???  And isn’t it a gift for my grandkids to snuggle into a grandma with some meat on her bones?  Yeah, I think so.

Ayla has a new trick.  If you say, “Ayla, MEAN FACE!” she drops what she’s doing and does this:

But then she thinks she’s hysterical and falls out, cracking herself up:

Hm.  I think that’s all I have today.  We had a wonderful weekend, and I hope everyone else did too!  Have a great week!

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Rainy Day Fun…

Posted by Sandra on April 21, 2009

… or should I say “Rainy Day Mess?”

Shaving Cream is great for fingerpainting!

Shaving Cream is great for fingerpainting!

And for the perfect end to playtime, we looked out the back window and saw this!

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Our Babies, Ourselves – 3

Posted by Sandra on April 14, 2009

Very interesting chapter on the “entwined relationship” between a baby and her mother and father.  Again, this is from the awesome book “Our Babies, Ourselves” by Meredith F. Small.  Here’s my blog #1 and blog #2 about some of the great research and information.  Get this book… you won’t regret it!

…More remarkable, lab research has also shown that the connection between babies and parents is deeply physiological.  In one study of infant reaction to mothers, fathers, and strangers, an infant girl was brought into a lab and set in a plastic seat that was curtained off from distractions.  The baby was then approached by her mother, then her father, and then a stranger.  Chest monitors on the baby and the adults showed that the baby synchronized her heart rate to that of the mother or father when they approached, but she did not synchronize her heart rate to the stranger’s.  The data suggests that babies and their caretakers are entwined in a homeostatic relationship, with the baby clicking in with the parents to achieve some sort of balance.

(my note:  this is perhaps why co-sleeping is safer than crib sleeping, since baby synchronizes her heart with ours?  Reason #572 to have a family bed!!)

…We are convinced that a “good” interaction, mother and baby synchronize with each other from the beginning, and that the pathways may be set up in intrauterine life ready to be entrained, especially by the mothers, immediately after birth. 

Entrainment then explains why infants left alone will cry.  They are dealing with the unexpected – they are alone.  Being tiny primates, the are adapted to expect an entrainment, and physical and emotional attachment, a connection with a more mature version of their kind.  They cry out of surprise, out of confusion, out of an unconscious “knowing” that something is wrong.    … Regulatating its world by sleeping, crying, or staying quietly alert is the most powerful thing a baby can do, says Brazelton, and we should respect this ability and tend to it (emphasis mine).

(my note:  notice they do not cry to “manipulate”, that word seen all too often written by “experts” who advise a mother to ignore their baby’s basic needs and leave them to cry – to “train” them… makes ME cry!)

From all we know, every primate baby is designed to be physically attached to someone who will feed, protect, and care for it, and teach it about being human – they have been adapted over millions of years to expect nothing less.

And yet there are parents out there that believe neglecting their crying child is the right thing to do.  Somewhere in their minds and hearts, they lost that nurturing, loving connection, and I hope they will learn it before it’s too late.

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Take THAT, “Case Against Breastfeeding”!!

Posted by Sandra on April 9, 2009

God bless Peggy O’Mara, for articulating and researching what we already knew, that Rosin is just wrong:

In her article, Rosin describes her cursory review of the medical literature on breastfeeding to shore up her personal decision to possibly forgo it, and concludes that all the talk about the benefits of breastfeeding is just “magical thinking.” But it’s irresponsible to imply that such a brief and biased analysis of the medical literature could somehow trump the conclusions of the world’s leading health organizations and medical authorities. By now, the superiority of breastmilk to formula is axiomatic.

Peggy asks us:

This is no time to waver: Powerful economic and political forces are continually undermining breastfeeding progress. Surely, we need state and federal protections for breastfeeding—that’s a given. To achieve our national health goals, we—like our sisters around the world—also need guaranteed health care, paid family leaves, and caregiving credits. Bottle-feeding is an old-school feminist solution to inequality. The equal-rights arena of today is breastfeeding.

Read the article – it’s fantastic.

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Re-enforcing the Safety of the Family Bed

Posted by Sandra on April 6, 2009

How the Stats Really Stack Up: Cosleeping Is Twice As Safe
By Tina Kimmel
Issue 114 September/October 2002

The Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) and the Juvenile Product Manufacturers Association (JPMA, the crib manufacturers’ lobby) recently launched a campaign to discourage parents from placing infants in adult beds or sleeping with them, based on data showing that infants have a very small risk of dying in adult beds.1,2 The CPSC implies that infants in adult beds are at greater risk than infants in cribs, but as we know, and as they know, babies also die in cribs.

What we need to do is calculate the relative riskiness of an infant sleeping in an adult bed versus a crib. We can do that by dividing a measure of danger for each situation by the prevalence, or frequency, of that situation, and then comparing them. (Oddly, the CPSC never presents relative risks.) Using government figures, we can perform a rough calculation to show that infants are more than twice as safe in adult beds as in cribs. This is aside from the many other advantages of cosleeping or bedsharing, such as increased breastfeeding and physiological regulation, the experience of having slept well, parents’ feeling of assurance that their child is well and happy, the enhanced security of psychological attachment and family togetherness, and family enjoyment.3

Let’s begin by looking closely at the CPSC data. The anti-cosleeping campaign is based on a dataset that contains the 2,178 cases of unintentional mechanical suffocation of US infants under 13 months old for the period 1980 to 1997. CPSC-authored articles about these data reflect only the small portion of deaths that occurred in adult beds.4 However, these data also have been published with summaries of the cause-of-death codes on all 2,178 cases.5 This complete dataset is further summarized in Table 1.


Of these 2,178 infant suffocation deaths, we are certain of only 139 occurring in an adult bed. For 102 of these, we know that a larger person (presumably a sleeping adult) was present, because the cause-of-death code is “overlain in a bed.” That does not tell us exactly what caused the death-that is, whether the baby died and then was lain on, or died as a result of being lain on. We can assume that the 37 deaths involving waterbeds occurred in adult beds, since few child waterbeds exist. That gives us a total of 139 infant suffocation deaths known to have occurred in adult beds in these 18 years.

The same data show that 428 infants died due to being in a crib. It is likely that there were preventable risk factors (such as using a crib in need of repair) involved in these crib-related deaths. But that doesn’t change our calculations, because the deaths did occur. Similarly, our calculations do not change due to the preventable risk factors (such as intoxication) involved in adult-bed deaths (and other overlying). Note that advocates are raising public awareness to increase the safety of both these sleeping arrangements, with the hope that all these deaths will decrease.

We can’t use the other 739 bed- or bedding-related cases in our analysis, because the place of death is not specific enough; these deaths may have occurred in a large adult bed, a single-size adult bed, a child’s bed, or a misused crib. Nor can we include the remaining 760 deaths, as we have no idea whether they took place in a sleep situation at all. We also know nothing about the presence or absence of an adult, although a nearby, aware caretaker could have prevented many of these deaths.

So for only 567 (139 plus 428) of the deaths do we know whether they took place in an adult or infant bed. Thus, from 1980 to 1997, 75 percent of the mechanical suffocation deaths of US infants with a known place of occurrence took place in cribs, while 25 percent took place in adult beds.

While it is tempting to make the observation that three times as many babies died in cribs as in adult beds, if three times as many babies were actually sleeping in cribs as in adult beds, the risk would be the same in either place. Based only on this crude death-certificate data, we do not know which is safer. We still need to know how many babies were actually in adult beds or cribs-that is, an estimate of how common cosleeping was.

To estimate cosleeping prevalence, we can turn to the CDC’s Pregnancy Risk Assessment Monitoring System (PRAMS).6 PRAMS has been surveying mothers of infants, usually between two and six months of age (but occasionally up to nine months), since 1988. Approximately 1,800 new mothers are sampled each year in each participating state. The sample is rigorously selected to represent essentially every birth in the state, and the response rates are high (70 to 80 percent). Most of the 100 or so PRAMS questions involve prenatal and well-baby care and stressors.

States have the option of adding their own questions and have asked about cosleeping. The basic question asked is, “How often does your new baby sleep in the same bed with you? Always; Sometimes; Never.” (Some states add “Almost always.”) PRAMS data, therefore, can be used to ascertain cosleeping prevalence in participating states and may be the only data of this kind.

Table 2 shows the results of this question on the PRAMS survey from 1991 through 1999, the most recent data available.


We see from these data that roughly 68 percent (100 percent minus the 23 to 43 percent who “never” coslept) of babies in these states enjoyed cosleeping at least some of the time. Data from the United Kingdom are similar: Helen Ball’s Sleep Lab found that around 7 percent always coslept, 40 percent did so for part of the night, and 33 percent never coslept.6

Now let’s try to estimate a single cosleeping prevalence rate from these data. Let’s say that babies who “sometimes” cosleep do so about half the time. Over all the years of this sample, around 42 percent of babies coslept “sometimes.” Let’s also say that “always” or “almost always” means 90 percent of the time. Roughly 26 percent of infants coslept “always” or “almost always.” Adding “always/almost always” (90 percent of the time x 26 percent of babies) to “sometimes” (50 percent of the time x 42 percent of babies), we get 44 percent of babies ages two to nine months who were cosleeping at any given time, presumably in an adult bed.

Now we can use these figures based on CPSC and PRAMS data to calculate the riskiness of these two sleep arrangements, although it’s important to understand the limitations of doing so. For example, these PRAMS data are from only five states (although more will be available in the future), while the CPSC data are from the entire US. The years in which the PRAMS cosleeping data were collected are not the same as those covered by the CPSC dataset, although they overlap. The CPSC covers infants zero to thirteen months, while PRAMS asks about infants two to nine months. The CPSC collects demographic details such as state, income, race, and age of mother (as does PRAMS), as well as time of the death, but they are not easily available to do a more detailed analysis. One or both of these data sources lacks information on impairment of caretaker and other known sleep risk factors, exact sleeping and furniture arrangements during different times in the night, overcrowding and other motivation for cosleeping or crib sleeping, clinical pathology findings, previous health of the infant, etc. Plus, a complete risk analysis should include all causes of infant deaths, including SIDS.

Nonetheless, these data are important population-based sources of information on sleep risks that we would not have otherwise. So let’s go ahead and use them to estimate a risk ratio for cosleeping. We take the 25 percent of the suffocation risk in the CPSC data linked to being in an adult bed and divide it by the 44 percent of babies who were actually in adult beds. Then we divide that fraction by a similar fraction for cribs, i.e., 75 percent divided by 56 percent. (If we multiplied each of these fractions by an overall infant death rate, we would have the actual risk for each group.)

This result shows that it was actually less than half (42 percent) as risky, or more than twice as safe, for an infant to be in an adult bed than in a crib. Based upon these calculations using the CPSC’s own data, we can say that crib sleeping had a relative risk of 2.37 compared with sleeping in an adult bed.

Therefore, cosleep with impunity-but, of course, be sure to follow the safe cosleeping guidelines described in this issue of Mothering.

1. “CPSC, JPMA Launch Campaign about the Hidden Hazards of Placing Babies in Adult Beds,” Consumer Product Safety Commission press release no. 02-153, May 3, 2002.
2. S. Nakamura et al., “Review of Hazards Associated with Children Placed in Adult Beds,” Arch. Pediatr. Adolesc. Med. 153, no. 10 (1999): 1019- 1023.
3. Summarized in M. O’Hara et al., “Sleep Location and Suffocation: How Good Is the Evidence?” Pediatrics 105, no. 4 (2000): 915-920.
4. See Note 2.
5. Dorothy A. Drago and Andrew L. Dannenberg, “Infant Mechanical Suffocation Deaths in the United States, 1980-1997,” Pediatrics 103, no. 5 (1999): e59.
6. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “Pregnancy Risk Assessment Monitoring System,”
7. “The Sleep Lab Awakening,” University of Durham (UK) press release, April 6, 2000.


Tina Kimmel, MSW, MPH, is a PhD student in social welfare at the University of California-Berkeley and is writing her dissertation on “The Effect of Welfare Reform on Breastfeeding Rates: Findings from the Pregnancy Risk Assessment Monitoring System.” Previously she worked as a research scientist for California’s state health department. She would like to acknowledge the state PRAMS epidemiologists who shared their analyzed data for this article: Rhonda Stephens, MPH (Alabama), Chris Wells, MS (Colorado), Ken Rosenberg, MD, MPH (Oregon), Melissa Baker, MA (West Virginia), and especially Kathy Perham-Hester, MS, MPH (Alaska) for her valuable insights. Tina has two children, Rosie (27) and Jesse (21), and one grandchild, Eli (4)-all born at home and all cosleepers.



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Our Babies, Ourselves – 2

Posted by Sandra on April 6, 2009

I had intended on keeping up a series about this great book by Meredith F. Small, Our Babies, Ourselves, but got a little sidetracked!  Here’s the first “installment” that I did a few months ago.  I really highly recommend this book to anyone with children or planning to have children.  Great read!

I was reading the chapter on the San, or “bushman” as we may call them.  Here was an interesting blurb from that chapter (bold emphasis is mine):

…Women often give birth in the bush alone, witch is considered a sign of strength and achievement.  Babies are never left at home when mothers go out to gather, an odd fact in that there is always someone at camp who could babysit.  But the mother-infant relationship is considered sacrosant, so babies stay with their mothers at all times.  Women wear a large multipupose animal-skin garment, the kaross, which functions as both a cover-up and a holding device.  Babies sit in a special sling within the kaross, a soft palate lined with grass. This sling is nonrestictive and allows the baby to wiggle around, moving its arms and legs at will.  It also assumes constant mother-infant contact; anthorpologist Melvin Konner found that San infants have more than twice the amount of passive contact with their mothers than do babies in industrialized societies.  The sling is hung on the mother’s hip, not on her back, and so the baby has good access to the breast and sees everything from the same vantage point as its mother.  …

Although San babies cry, they do not do so for long, and none of them cries excessively or inconsolably; more than 90 percent of their total crying events during the first nine months last less than thirty seconds.  Babies are fed when they cry and often when they do not cry.  San breasts are long and flexible, and it is up to the baby to manage its feeding by holding on to the breast and sucking whenever it is hungry – called “continuous feeding” by Melvin Konner.  Interestingly, we in the West call this kind of feeding “on demand”, but in fact there is no demand being placed here.  As soon as possible, babies control their own feeding and there is no conflict between mother and child over the time or amount of milk allowed, until weaning, which occurs at almost four years of age.

The chapter goes on to reiterate that Sans babies surpass their Eurpoean peers in motor skills.  Babies are never placed on their backs and allowed to “flail about” – they feel the constant vertical position encourages these motor skills.

I think we have a lot to learn from the San.  Now, I certainly understand that in our society, women have careers outside of the home and other obligations that would make such constant contact impossible.  But clearly there is some middle ground that can be met here.  Our industrialized society focuses too much on “independence” and “structural learning” that we have lost sight of the basics, which are even more crucial to the healthy development of our babies.  Our society likes to call it “spoiling” when a mother immediately tends to a child’s cry.  Our culture believes a child will “never” leave a parents bed if they lovingly, naturally co-sleep.  We are such a narrow minded society, thinking about nothing but trying to mold babies, from birth, into adults.  Mozart in the womb, Baby Einstein CDs, preschool at age 2.  All these babies really need is love, and a chance to be babies.

We need to get back to basics.  We must, or our society will degenerate more than it already has.  A child raised with as much mother-baby contact as is humanly possible, fed “on demand”, has it’s ever single need tended to as soon as possible, and is never left to cry – ever, will grow up to be a better adult.  And a better parent.

We parent the way we are parented.  Let’s help continue the cycle of attachment and love.


Attachment Parenting makes HAPPY BABIES!

Attachment Parenting makes HAPPY BABIES!

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Did you know???? (Pregnancy & Childbirth)

Posted by Sandra on February 3, 2009

Did you know that YOU control your health care and the following is completely, 100% optional?

  • GBS test (it’s rare that a baby will contract it, and studies show use of antibiotics to mom doesn’t reduce infant deaths anyways).  My labors, and millions of others too, have all been so fast that a postive wouldn’t have made any difference – no time for the meds anyways.  Do some research!  Take it if you want, but it’s optional.
  • Any fetal testing such as nuchal fold, etc.  Do your own research.  False positives run RAMPANT here.  And what would you do with the results?  Would you terminate?  Can you really be “prepared” for a baby with Downs Syndrome?  It’s perfectly fine if you want them, just be aware of the options.  But don’t let a doc tell you that you MUST have them.  I personally just loved the ultrasounds, and I always wanted to find out the sex, but that’s as far as I’d want to go. 
  • Any and all internal exams?  Dilation means ZILCH (less than zilch, actually) – you may be at zero and have that baby in 60 minutes, or at 4 and have it in two weeks.  Don’t let the doc do these uncomfortable exams, they’re not medically necessary in a normal pregnancy – I’m not too sure there’d be many reasons for them in a NOT normal pregnancy. 
    * They can cause cramping, bleeding, infection, and premature breaking of the waters.  They’ve even been known to start early labor. Refuse.  Better yet, ask the doc why.  If she says dilation, ask her what that means.  If she says anything other than “nothing”, find a new doc.  Oh, and hey, if you like these, more power to ya.  Whatever floats your boat. 😀
    Internal exams during labor are optional too.  Personally, I only let the doc check ONE TIME when I think I’m going to want to start pushing, just to make sure I’m fully effaced and dilated.  Otherwise, it does me no good to have every nurse, medical student, and doctor messing with me.  See * above.  NO.
  • Did you know that you don’t have to rush to the hospital (if you’re having a hospital birth) the millisecond your water breaks?  The “risk of infection after the water breaks” comes from the medical practice of 54 people must jam their hands up you to check your cervix from the minute you get into the hospital until you push out the baby.  Since no one will be doing that (see above), you don’t run the same risk of infection.  Stay at home as long as possible, labor comfortably and happily. 
  • Continuous fetal monitoring in the hospital  (this, and all my pearls of wisdom, is of course based on a normal, low-risk pregnancy/childbirth).  This restricts mama to laying in a bed, which is the last position you should be while laboring!
  • Don’t let them tell you that you can’t eat or drink either.  If you’re hungry, eat.  If you want a cup of coffee or a soda, get it.  This myth dates back a very VERY long time ago when the drugs used on moms for emergency c-sections were much harsher.  Also, your stomach is never truly empty, so have a cup.  The nurse is not the boss of you, and sometimes they don’t know better.  Not having something during longer labors actually weakens the mom, making the chance of drugs or risky surgery higher.
  • The IV or even the heplock.  These frankly bug me, so I wouldn’t have one anyways, but I’ll bet the vast majority of moms who have had hospital births thought they HAD to have this.  Nope.  That’s what’s totally cool about it being YOUR body – you can say NO!  If, on the rare rare RARE chance you would need IV fluids or meds, the nurse can set it in a matter of seconds.  No need for the puncture and discomfort if it’s not necessary!
  • Stirrups in labor?  This is ghastly to me.  First, laying down flat on your back is second only to standing on your head for horrible positions to be in to labor.  It defeats gravity.  Sit up, stand, get on all fours, or squat.  Let gravity work with you, let the natural shape of your cervix open wider and you’ll have a much better delivery.  The doc cannot force you on your back if you don’t let her.
  • Immediate clamping of the cord and delivery of the placenta.  There is no rush for this.  Let it happen naturally.  Unless your baby has a problem and must be rushed off to the NICU, spend some time bonding, let the cord blood go to your baby (it belongs to her!), let the placenta come out when your body is ready. 
  • This is a biggieA 48 or 72 hour hospital stay after a normal vaginal delivery.  I’ll bet the same is true here as in the IV – most moms think they’re not “allowed” to leave.  Well, you’re not a hostage, and if you feel good in three hours, GO HOME.  There are no laws, no rules that state a healthy mom and healthy baby have to stick around a nasty hospital (don’t fool yourself – they’re nasty).  Go home and recover where you’re comfortable.

Now, I’m not a doctor, but I’ve been there four times and learned a lot from experience.  The information on medical tests is out there, and the rest is common sense.  Talk with your doc, be a PARTNER in your healthcare, have the pregnancy and childbirth you’ve always dreamed of – one that YOU are in control of.


Better yet, just get a midwife and STAY HOME to safely have your baby.  You’ll feel better, baby will feel better, you will be in charge of your own body, and it will be a beautiful experience!!

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I’m not sure how to deal…

Posted by Sandra on December 19, 2008

with not ever having any more babies.

Hubby and I are both 41.  He’s done, he said.  He asked me if it was okay that he’s done, and what am I to say but sure

He said he wants to have some peace in his life in his “old age”.  I don’t.  I mean, our lives are only halfway over.  Our youngest will be “out of the house” when we’re only 60.  That still gives us a good 20+ years, God willing, to do… what?  Travel?  I’m not interested in traveling the world.  Relax?  That will kill me sooner than old age will.  What?  What to do with the last 20-30 years of my life?

I’m sure I’ll have grandchildren, again God willing.  And that’s great when they visit.  I’ll have chaos and noise and cook for lots of people, blah blah blah.  But then they leave.  And then what?  Silence.  Boredom.

Do I want to be a Walmart Greeter when I’m 65 just to have something to do?  Not really.  Will I just sit around and watch movies, play online poker, blog, and sleep?  Woo hoo, I’m getting my party hat out.

I have no medical reason not to have more children – my pregnancies and childbirths are fantastic.

And also, I truly regret not having my babies at home.  I really want to experience a home birth.  I don’t want a doctor near me.  I mean, my other labors were great – no intervention, natural, beautiful perfect labors.  But I want to be here, where it’s natural and normal and SHOULD be.  I want to experience a home birth.  More than one, if I could blow out the candles and make any wish I wanted.

I don’t want to be done.  I don’t feel like my family is complete yet.   And this makes me very sad.

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Fun in the Sun

Posted by Sandra on July 28, 2008

Sigh… my boys were unable to make it home from Germany over the weekend.  I’m waiting by the phone today to see if they’re able to come in today.  They will be flying into Baltimore or Boston with someone, then flying by themselves here… I believe it’s about an 8 hour flight, so really, they’ll be here in two hours… LOL…

So we filled up the girls’ pool and spent the weekend in the beautiful sun.  Showing off some pics of my beautiful, perfect little ones:

Ayla must be waiting for her big brother to get home to truly crawl.  She’s been on all fours for quite some time, can go backwards, roll anywhere, and scoot forward… but I promised Justus I wouldn’t let her grow up until he got back.  😀

My SIL has opted for the radiation to reduce the size of the growing tumor in her brain, simply to make her last weeks here more comfortable.  I can’t imagine having to make such decisions for myself.  Whenever I get frustrated at my own life, making choices like what I have to cook for dinner, I think about Carol, and her choice to live a few more weeks.  Makes cooking meatloaf pretty ridiculous.

We had a cable, phone, and internet outage yesterday morning – I got laundry done, made 6 dozen oatmeal chocolate chip cookies from scratch, and even made French Onion soup from scratch for the first time – and it was delicious!  I’m trying to figure out if I can get the boys to eat it… Hmmm.  So, I need to have an outage once a week, I think – I got a lot done!

There’s so much in the news I could rant about, but frankly I’m not in the mood.  It’ll aggravate me, and I’m in too good of a mood realizing I’ll be holding my boys within the next 36 hours!  I’ll rant later in the week!

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