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Kudos to “Today’s Parent”

Posted by Sandra on December 1, 2008

For finally publishing correct information.

It’s about time a “mainstream” publication actually talks and promotes about attachment parenting (for those that don’t know what this is, it’s just NATURAL LOVING parenting, following baby’s cues, not trying to train a baby to be an adult from the moment of birth), the fact that “spoiling” a baby is a myth and ridiculous notion, and that responding to your baby’s needs is crucial. 

Let’s hope, with all of our hearts, that every other publication, every doctor, and every “expert” that publishes horrid parenting books also stop talking about neglect (crying it out), that co-sleeping is awful (it is in fact natural and nurturing, one of the best things a parent can do for their baby), and on and on and on.

“Spoiling” is in fact beneficial

The kind of responsive care of infants that some people call “spoiling” is in fact beneficial, according to Barr and other researchers:

• It reduces crying. The !Kung San babies, for example, cry 50 percent less than babies in North America.

I just can’t even express how happy I am to see them write this – that babies who are not left to cry it out actually cry LESS.  Maybe it’s because they know they’re loved, instead of ignored.  People, pay attention.


…People who think that this kind of responsive care will lead to wimpy, dependent, self-centred older children or adults might consider the experiences of other cultures. Barr studied the !Kung San hunter-gatherers of the Kalahari Desert who carry their babies all the time when they’re awake and sleep with their babies skin to skin. They nurse on average about every 13 minutes, and they respond to every fret and whimper within seconds.

“And there’s nothing wimpy about the !Kung San,” says Barr. “The young boys are expected to go out into the woods and hunt wild boar, alone, and they are both brave and independent. The concept that this kind of care for infants makes them grow up to be wimps is simply not true.”

Hats off to Today’s Parent for wising up!  Come on everyone else!!!


One Response to “Kudos to “Today’s Parent””

  1. Today’s Parent magazine has always had a “responsive parenting” approach to all it’s stories for the past 15 years that I have been reading it. They have published numerous articles on Attachment Parenting, co-sleeping, breastfeeding and homeschooling. I love the magazine.

    Judy Arnall, Author of “Discipline Without Distress: 135 tools for raising caring, responsible children without time-outs, spanking, punishment or bribery.”

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